Some days, everything feels important.
The work deadline is important. The laundry needs to be done. There are emails waiting for replies. The kids need me. Dinner needs to happen. And sometimes I just need Easy Painting Ideas for Toddlers You Can Set Up in Minutes so my little one has something fun to do while I finish one important task.
Then there are appointments to remember, things I want to work on for myself, and about a hundred little things floating around in my head.
So I do what I think will help.
I make a to-do list.
And then I keep adding to it.
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One thing becomes five. Five become fifteen. And suddenly, the list that was supposed to make me feel organized is making me feel even more overwhelmed.
Sound familiar?
I’ve realized that one of my biggest problems isn’t figuring out what needs to be done.
I already know what needs to be done.
The problem is looking at a long list and feeling like everything on it is important.
As a mom of three, there will probably always be more things I could do than hours available to do them. I’m slowly learning that the answer isn’t becoming better at doing everything.
It’s becoming better at deciding:
What matters most right now?
Lately, I’ve been reading a lot about time, priorities, and how we decide what deserves our attention. Organize Tomorrow Today helped me rethink the way I plan my daily tasks, while Time to Parent completely changed the way I think about where my time as a mom is actually going—especially the idea that we don’t have to give equal attention to everything at once.
And Ikigai made me think about an even bigger question: what do I actually want to make room for in my life?
The more I read and experiment with these ideas, the more I realize that I don’t really want to squeeze more and more into my days.
I want to make more room for the things that actually matter.
So if you’re a busy mom staring at an overwhelming to-do list and wondering how you’re supposed to prioritize when everything feels important, here are a few things that are helping me.
1. Get Everything Out of Your Head
When I have too much going on, I can feel overwhelmed before I’ve even started.
There’s work.
Things the kids need.
Household jobs.
Appointments.
Ideas I don’t want to forget.
Those tiny tasks that somehow keep popping back into my head at the most inconvenient times.
One of the simplest things I’ve found helpful is doing a five-minute brain dump.
I write everything down.
Not in order. Not beautifully. And definitely not organized.
I just get it out of my head.
My list might include:
- Finish an important work task
- Reply to an email
- Schedule an appointment
- Buy something the kids need
- Work on a personal project
- Fold the laundry
- Pay a bill
- Remember something for school
Once it’s on paper, my brain doesn’t have to keep reminding me about it.
But here’s the part that has made the biggest difference:
My brain dump is NOT my daily to-do list.
Just because something needs to be done doesn’t mean it needs to be done today.
I wish I’d understood that sooner.
2. Stop Treating Your To-Do List Like a Priority List
This was one of my biggest mistakes.
I’d write down 15 things and somehow convince myself that all 15 needed to happen that day.
Then I’d finish six or seven of them and still go to bed feeling behind.
But a list of tasks isn’t the same thing as a list of priorities.
If everything is a priority, nothing really is.
Now I look at my list and ask:
What actually matters today?
Not this week.
Not eventually.
Today.
Some things have real deadlines.
Some affect other people.
Some move something important forward.
And some would simply be nice to get done.
They don’t all deserve the same amount of attention.
This is one reason I connected so much with Organize Tomorrow Today. The book reinforced something I’m still learning myself: productivity isn’t about trying to do everything. It’s about getting much better at deciding what deserves your attention.
If you constantly make long to-do lists and still end the day wondering where your time went, Organize Tomorrow Today is worth reading. I especially liked that I could take ideas from it and actually apply them to my real life.
No Time to Sit Down and Read?
I know what you might be thinking:
Another book? When exactly am I supposed to read it?
I get it.
Finding quiet reading time isn’t exactly easy when you’re juggling kids, work, the house and everything else.
That’s where audiobooks can be so useful.
Instead of trying to find another free hour in the day, you can listen while you’re doing something you’re already doing—folding laundry, tidying the kitchen, going for a walk or getting through all those little household jobs.
If you’ve been wanting to read more but can’t seem to find the time, try Audible and start listening during the pockets of time you already have
I love the idea of turning time I’m already spending on everyday tasks into a little time for myself too.
3. Choose Just Three Important Things
Once everything is out of my head, I don’t transfer the entire list onto tomorrow’s schedule.
Instead, I choose three things that matter most.
That’s it.
My three might be:
- Finish an important work task.
- Move one personal goal forward.
- Take care of one important family task.
There will obviously be other things I do during the day.
Meals still need to happen. There will be dishes, messages, laundry, school things and all the little jobs that come with family life.
But those aren’t all my priorities.
That’s the difference.
I’m no longer expecting myself to finish an enormous list before I’m allowed to feel like I’ve had a productive day.
If I finish more, wonderful.
But if I’ve moved the three things that mattered most forward, that’s a good day.
4. Pick Your ONE MUST
Even among those three things, I like choosing one as my:
ONE MUST.
I ask myself:
If I only move one important thing forward today, what should it be?
This has been especially helpful because life with kids doesn’t always cooperate with our beautifully planned schedules.
Someone gets sick.
An appointment takes longer than expected.
Work suddenly becomes busy.
Your child needs more of you that day.
And just like that, the plan is gone.
I used to look at everything I hadn’t completed and immediately feel behind.
Now I’m trying to come back to one question:
What’s the most important thing I can realistically do next?
I don’t have to rescue the entire day.
I just have to know what matters most.
5. Plan Tomorrow Before Tomorrow Starts
One small habit that has made this much easier is deciding my priorities the day before.
At the end of the day, I look at what’s unfinished and what’s coming tomorrow.
Then I write something like:
Tomorrow
✓ Priority 1
✓ Priority 2
✓ Priority 3
⭐ ONE MUST
It takes only a few minutes.
But the next morning, I don’t have to stare at a giant list wondering where to begin.
I’ve already decided.
This idea really clicked with me while reading Organize Tomorrow Today. It reminded me that sometimes the best thing we can do for tomorrow is make a few good decisions before tomorrow arrives.
I’ve shared more of the ideas I took from the book in my Organize Tomorrow Today review if you want to read more.
6. Learn the Difference Between Urgent and Important
This is another one I’m still working on.
Urgent things are very good at getting our attention.
A notification feels urgent.
An email can feel urgent.
A messy kitchen can feel urgent.
Someone asking for something can immediately feel urgent.
But something demanding my attention doesn’t automatically make it the most important thing.
So when everything seems important, I try asking myself two questions:
Does this need my attention soon?
And:
Does this actually matter?
Sometimes the answer to both is yes.
But not always.
It’s surprisingly easy to spend an entire day responding to small urgent things and then realize that the one thing you genuinely wanted to accomplish never happened.
7. Sometimes Your Kids ARE the Priority
This one has become especially important to me.
Sometimes the most important thing isn’t written on my list at all.
Reading Time to Parent really made me think about this.
As moms, we can spend an entire day doing things for our families while barely spending any time simply being with them.
Packing things.
Cleaning things.
Buying things.
Scheduling things.
Cooking things.
Driving everyone somewhere.
We can be incredibly busy taking care of our children without necessarily feeling connected to them.
Time to Parent reminded me that being present with my kids deserves a place among my priorities too—not just the work, errands and household jobs that are easier to check off a list.
I shared much more about what I learned in my Time to Parent review, because this was one of the ideas that stayed with me after finishing the book.
And spending time together doesn’t need to become another complicated item on the to-do list.
It can be incredibly simple.
Sometimes I put everything else aside and do a little activity with my child.
That’s actually why I love easy activities that use things we already have around the house. They don’t require me to spend an hour preparing something before we can even start.
If you need ideas too, I’ve put together simple kids activities using things you probably already have at home for those days when you want to connect with your child without creating more work for yourself.
Sometimes it’s painting.
Sometimes it’s sensory play.
Sometimes we go outside.
And sometimes we just sit on the floor and play.
The activity isn’t really the important part.
The time together is.
Sometimes the laundry really can wait.
8. Ask Yourself: Will This Matter a Week From Now?
When several things still feel equally important, I like asking myself:
Which one will I be glad I did a week from now?
That question gives me perspective surprisingly quickly.
Maybe it’s finishing an important project.
Maybe it’s finally making an appointment I’ve been postponing.
Maybe it’s preparing something now that will make next week easier.
But sometimes the answer isn’t a productivity task at all.
Maybe I’ll be happier that I spent the afternoon outside with my kids than that I finished another load of laundry.
Maybe I’ll be glad I went to bed instead of squeezing another hour of work into my evening.
Not every important thing gives us something to check off.
9. Think About What Actually Matters to You
I’ve also realized that prioritizing becomes easier when I know what I’m prioritizing for.
This is one reason Ikigai made such an impression on me.
It’s not really a productivity book.
Instead, it made me think much more deeply about purpose, meaning and what makes a life feel worth living.
And I think there’s an important connection here.
When everything feels important, maybe we shouldn’t always ask:
How can I get all of this done?
Maybe sometimes we need to ask:
What actually matters to me?
My family matters.
My work matters.
My own dreams and goals matter.
My well-being matters.
But they don’t all need the same amount of my attention every single day.
Knowing the bigger things I care about makes it easier to decide which smaller things deserve my time today.
If you’ve been thinking about your own purpose beyond the endless cycle of work, kids and responsibilities, you might also enjoy my Ikigai review and the lessons I took from the book
10. Make Peace With What You Don’t Choose
This might actually be the hardest part.
Prioritizing something means not prioritizing something else right now.
If I focus on work, the laundry might wait.
If I spend time with my kids, I might not finish everything I planned.
If I protect an hour for something that’s important to me, something else might have to move to tomorrow.
There will still be laundry.
There will still be emails.
There will still be ideas I haven’t acted on.
There will probably still be something sitting on my list when I go to bed.
I’m trying not to see that as failure anymore.
Because a good prioritization system isn’t one that somehow helps us finish everything.
It’s one that helps us finish the right things without feeling guilty about everything else.
That’s a very different goal.
My Simple Prioritizing Routine for Busy Moms
If your head feels full right now, don’t try to reorganize your entire life tonight.
Just try this:
- Brain dump everything that’s on your mind.
- Ask yourself, “What actually matters tomorrow?”
- Choose your three most important things.
- Pick your ONE MUST.
- Leave everything else on your master list.
- Tomorrow, start with what matters most.
That’s it.
No complicated productivity system.
No perfectly organized planner.
No expectation that you’re somehow going to finish everything.
Just a little more clarity about what deserves your attention next.
You Don’t Have to Do Everything Today
This is something I’m reminding myself of too.
A full life will probably always come with an unfinished to-do list.
There will always be another load of laundry.
Another email.
Another idea.
Another work task.
Another room that could be tidier.
Another thing we could be doing.
Especially as moms, I don’t think there’s going to be a magical afternoon when we finally sit down and say:
That’s it. Everything is done.
And maybe that’s okay.
Maybe the goal was never to get everything done.
Maybe the goal is to be able to look at everything asking for our attention and say:
This matters most right now.
Sometimes that’s work.
Sometimes it’s a dream you’re building.
Sometimes it’s taking care of yourself.
And sometimes it’s sitting on the floor with your child while the laundry waits.
Choose what matters.
Start there.
The rest can wait.
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